Dear friends, today we will discuss a very important topic – how to avoid arguments in our lives. This is something that comes up often in all of our lives, right?
I know, many times we get involved in arguments without even realizing it. But the Bible teaches us that it is not always good to get involved in arguments. On the contrary, sometimes it is wise to walk away from an argument.
Suppose you have a disagreement with a friend. What will you do now? Do you want to win the argument or do you want to calmly avoid the issue? The Bible says that you should do the latter. Because if you argue, you may win, but you may lose your friend.
We must remember that God wants us to be compassionate towards each other. He does not want us to get involved in unnecessary arguments. So when someone tries to argue with us, if we humbly remove ourselves from the situation, then we are actually doing God’s will.
Remember when you were a kid and your parents would say, Stay away, don’t talk to him. That was wise. The Bible teaches us exactly this.
But that doesn’t mean we will never disagree with someone. Rather, when we need to discuss something important, we will do so – but with a spirit of love, patience, and understanding.
I have found in my own life that whenever I have distanced myself from an argument, I have found peace. This has helped me save many relationships. Try it too, and you will see how good it feels.
Remember, God has called us to be messengers of peace. So come, let us all try together to show the love of God through our speech and behavior.
Contents
- 1 Biblical Wisdom on Diffusing Heated Discussions
- 2 Scriptural Guidance for Maintaining Peace in Conflicts
- 3 God’s Perspective on Avoiding Unnecessary Quarrels
- 4 Verses That Encourage Restraint in Heated Moments
- 5 The Spiritual Benefits of Stepping Back from Arguments
- 6 How the Bible Teaches Us to Respond to Contentious Situations
- 7 Learning from Scripture: When to Walk Away from Disputes
- 8 Applying Biblical Principles to De-escalate Confrontations
Biblical Wisdom on Diffusing Heated Discussions

“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger”
Proverbs 15:1

“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath”
James 1:19

“The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with”
Proverbs 17:14

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers”
Ephesians 4:29
Scriptural Guidance for Maintaining Peace in Conflicts

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God”
Matthew 5:9

“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men”
Romans 12:18

“Let him eschew evil, do good; let him seek peace, ensue it”
1 Peter 3:11

“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, easy to be intreated, full of mercy good fruits, without partiality, without hypocrisy”
James 3:17

“Let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; be ye thankful”
Colossians 3:15
God’s Perspective on Avoiding Unnecessary Quarrels

“But foolish unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes”
2 Timothy 2:23

“But avoid foolish questions, genealogies, contentions, strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable vain”
Titus 3:9

“It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling”
Proverbs 20:3
“Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him”
Proverbs 26:4
Verses That Encourage Restraint in Heated Moments

“A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards”
Proverbs 29:11

“Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools”
Ecclesiastes 7:9

“If any man among you seem to be religious, bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain”
James 1:26

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faithMeekness, temperance: against such there is no law”
Galatians 5:22-23

“The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; it is his glory to pass over a transgression”
Proverbs 19:11
The Spiritual Benefits of Stepping Back from Arguments

“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto GodAnd the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts minds through Christ Jesus”
Philippians 4:6-7

“Be still, know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth”
Psalm 46:10

“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, not be weary; they shall walk, not faint”
Isaiah 40:31

“Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you”
1 Peter 5:7
How the Bible Teaches Us to Respond to Contentious Situations

“A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife”
Proverbs 15:18

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, pray for them which despitefully use you, persecute you”
Matthew 5:44

“Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, things wherewith one may edify another”
Romans 14:19

“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man”
Colossians 4:6

“See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, to all men”
1 Thessalonians 5:15
Learning from Scripture: When to Walk Away from Disputes

“Make no friendship with an angry man; with a furious man thou shalt not goLest thou learn his ways, get a snare to thy soul”
Proverbs 22:24-25
“Whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet”
Matthew 10:14

“Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; avoid them”
Romans 16:17

“Wherefore come out from among them, be ye separate, saith the Lord, touch not the unclean thing; I will receive you”
2 Corinthians 6:17
Applying Biblical Principles to De-escalate Confrontations
“Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all menIf it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all menDearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the LordTherefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his headBe not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good”
Romans 12:17-21
“By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, a soft tongue breaketh the bone”
Proverbs 25:15

“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go tell him his fault between thee him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother”
Matthew 18:15

“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted”
Galatians 6:1

“With all lowliness meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in loveEndeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace”
Ephesians 4:2-3